Tenant Rights and Security Deposit, Did the Landlord misuse the Security Deposit?

So, even though I never thought this would happen to me, I just had to know that no one is shielded.
I take a lot of care of my rental place and work my self on updating and fixing stuff around it so I do not cost the owner any additional expenses.  But, I should've taught myself not to be so naive and always protect my self.

I rented a house in Newport News, VA. And as I was moving to this area from out of state, I did not have any time to pick and choose so I found that house in my last minute and leased it.  I walked in and I faced a lot of issues.  For me it was no problem.  So, Bathrooms are filthy, it is OK, I will clean them, the Trash outside is a dump, obviously the people that were cleaning fixing the house did not throw their stuff and this dump took me about three or four weeks for the garbage truck to take it.
The oven did not work right from the first day and I had to buy new heating element and I changed it my self.
Few light switched and the door bell button were not working, actually the doorbell button was falling apart that I was afraid that my kids would touch the wires and get zapped.

My rent is automatically sent on the first of the month from my bank right to the landlord account.


The problem is not that, the issue started when I moved out and the Landlord started to ask me to clean and fix things that pre-existed in the house before I move in.
Pressure washing the outside of the house, is it part of my responsibility?
If there was cracks in the walls would I be responsible to fix it?
If the shower head was dirty and has some coloring on it that I could not clean on when I moved in, am I suppose to replace it and get a new one for the landlord?

Well, if there are some kid marks on the wall, this is something I have to clean, no problem and when I could not I used a service that the landlord requested to contact me and I had no problem with that.

How far can I go with that?  when the landlord threatened me to fix all that and send me a list of items and whatever left from my deposit, should I start to search for legal advice?  I already paid $300.00 for that service on top of all the expenses I paid for to clean the house my self to her standard.


What is your experience with these situations, and what was the end of it?
Would you have any advice?  direction?
Should there be a way to Google these houses and have a history of any issues from tenant or landlords?
Should there be a way to see if there is any problems, failure of service, or similar issue before we go and rent that house/apartment?

Flying these days, it is never reliable any more!!

You been traveling lately?
You been depending on flying to reach your distension?  Well, share your experience and did the airline match your expectation??
In my case, did not even get close,  for a start, I am waiting on a flight to Atlanta that is delayed almost 3hours and I definitely, will miss me next flight to Santa Ana...

So, I went to Norfolk airport to take the AA flight that didn't have seats and sent me back to Delta air lines who got me a flight to Detroit-to- Los Angelo's where I have to find a cap to Santa Ana.  What a day.